What is your back pain trying to tell you?


One of the main reasons people first look into massage is because they are experiencing a form of back pain. It’s a common side effect of our modern, sedentary lifestyle. Certainly most people know that too little exercise and sitting in front of a computer all day are hazardous to back health.

But what they don’t intuitively understand is that emotional pain can manifest physically as the back aches they may be experiencing. The body and soul are directly interconnected.

Emotionally speaking, the back represents our support system. Problems with the back usually mean we feel we are not being supported. Dr. Milton Erickson had a famous saying, “If you don’t pay attention… you pay with pain.”

What message is your body trying to tell you? What emotions do you need to change in order to decrease or eliminate your back pain?

Upper Back Pain

The upper back has to do with feeling the lack of emotional support; feeling significant people in your life don’t understand you or support you. You may feel unloved or you may be holding back your love from someone. Upper back pain could also mean that you feel that somebody is always on your back.

By changing a belief that you are responsible for other people’s happiness, it can relieve pain in your upper back and neck. Do things for others from your heart, not from a place of feeling you have to do it or they won’t love you.

Gaining love of yourself will not only increase your happiness – you will be supported from the inside first.

Middle Back Pain

Emotionally speaking, pain in the middle back comes from feeling guilty about ‘stuff’ from the past. Perhaps you are afraid to explore your past? Maybe you are hiding what is back there? Do you feel stabbed in the back? Do you find yourself wanting to scream out, “Get off my back!”?

In order to move freely into your future, you need to release the past anger and guilt and embrace your present and future with love in your heart.

Lower Back Pain

With today’s financial hard times, are your finances in a mess? Do you worry about them excessively? The lack of money, fear of not having enough, or fear of material loss may be the cause of your lower back bothering you. The amount of money you have has nothing to do with it. It’s the fear of lack of financial support, the fear of your own survival that amplifies the pain.

What is solution? 

There are two ways of going about it. One option is to work directly with your emotions and once they are understood, accepted and released, potentially your back pain will follow suit and heal.

The other approach is radically opposite – you have massages on regular basis or do specific exercises to strengthen your core and back and by releasing back pain you indirectly also eliminate the symptoms which were causing that pain in the first place. Laying on a table and allowing a professional masseuse to work out the kinks is the most pleasurable solution to the agonising problem expecially if the therapeutic part is nicely blended into more pleserable stokes of sensual massage.

I hope this article has helped to build the awareness behind the reasons of back pain and offered a little insight into my approach to healing and massage.